7.15.2012

Parents who will NOT be Getting the Parent-of-the-Year Award Anytime Soon

Do you ever have one of those days where your patience has not only been worn thin...but it has disappeared completely and you fear that you might not get it back again? Do you ever feel guilty for looking at the clock throughout the day and counting down the minutes 'til naptime and/or bedtime? Do you ever feel embarrassed for becoming that parent who yells like a crazy person raises their voice a little too loud at the grocery store because your child won't give you 2 minutes of silence so you can decide whether to do chicken or anything-other-than-chicken for dinner? Well, I am here to tell you that you are not alone. And no matter how hard you might be on yourself when it comes to parenting, you can rest assured that somewhere, someone is making worse choices than you are. You may have heard and read about these people in the media these last few months...and no matter what your opinion may be on their story and the choices they made, I can definitely promise you that none of the following parents will be voted for 'Parent of the Year' anytime soon.


5. The mother whose daughter received the catastrophe award in school.


So this story started out as an event in which the mom may have had an actual reason to be upset. 8-year-old Cassandra Garcia received a "Catastrophe" award in school for most excuses for not having homework. The teacher and the school principal claim that it was just a joke, saying that the teachers joke around with the students. According to the 3rd grader's mother, Christina Valdez, the child felt humiliated when the award was presented to her in class. Valdez says she was never aware her child had any problems with turning in homework and that her daughter was in an after-school program where she received homework assistance. So she did what any upset parent would do when they feel their child has been humiliated in front of a bunch of people - she took to the media to tell her story. Apparently she did not get the responses she expected, as this resulted in a huge backlash against Valdez. Majority of comments took aim at her, with many questioning her parenting. She was criticized for not being aware of what was going on with her own child in school (she claimed that she had no idea her child needed help with homework, yet the 8-year-old was enrolled in a program to assist children who need help with their homework), she was accused of humiliating her child even more by going to the media (many seeing it as her looking for attention and it backfiring), and many people just flat-out thought that it was not as big a deal as it sounded and that she should suck it up. Many people felt that she was blaming the school and the teacher for her child not doing her homework.

I did come across many comments of concern for the child and some people thinking that it was a very cruel thing for the teacher to do. I have mixed feelings about this one. I know some teachers have their own way of joking around with their students. I also think that teachers are the ones who get blamed for everything. I know many parents who take no interest in their children, let alone what is happening as far as their education. They feel like it is everyone else's responsibility, and since teachers are with their students the majority of the day, they are the perfect scapegoat. However, as a former preschool teacher, I would never embarrass a student. Doing that has no positive impact on the child. I would find it more beneficial to harass the parent for a meeting to discuss where their child is falling behind. If this still did not work, I would have issued a "catastrophe" award to the parent. In this case, I see this story as an excuse for this mom to try to get her face on television. If the child felt humiliated before for getting the award in front of her class, how is she going to feel now? Now that the whole world knows? I believe that there is a way to go about certain things. In this case it would have been better for the upset parent to go up the chain of command. If she was not satisfied with the conversation she had with the school's principal, she should have continued to the school board. If you are truly upset about an incident and if you make a big enough deal about it, you will see results. If you do decide to go to the media to tell your story, you better make sure you are not going to be hurting yourself in the process. You can see more of this story, here.


4. Tanning Booth Mom


I think we've all definitely seen this mom's picture around. In fact, it's been hard to find a story about the incident that got this mom in hot water without seeing something commented on about her physical appearance. This is the woman now famously known as "Tanning Mom"

Patricia Krentcil took her 5-year-old daughter, Anna, with her to a tanning salon where Krentcil is a regular. The following day at school, school officials said that Anna showed up with what appeared to be a sunburn. The child said she was in pain and she told classmates that she "went tanning with Mommy". The state law does not allow any minors under the age of 14 to be in tanning booths. Krentcil was arrested and charged with felony child endangerment. Krentcil says that it is all a big misunderstanding and that even though she takes her daughter with her to the tanning salon, her daughter does not go in a booth and tan. "I'd never endanger her life by putting her under the ultraviolet light", the mother has insisted. She has since been released on bond, though she was due back in court. The owner of the salon said he was told by employees who were there that day that Anna stayed outside with her father and brother.

I don't really know what to think about this incident. No one is really going to know if the young girl was actually in the tanning booth unless it was caught on camera, or they have some other kind of evidence. If she were outside with her father and brother like the employees claim, I would think that would be pretty easy to prove and the case would have already been dropped, but I don't really know. I do think that a large amount of the attention to this case has been because of Krentcil's appearance. It's pretty clear she has an unhealthy obsession with tanning and is probably causing great harm to herself. Whichever way this case turns out, I hope it's settled quickly for the sake of all parties involved.


3. The woman who took her child out of the car seat to strap in her gas can


We all make dumb mistakes. But his next story should make you feel better about all of yours. A Colorado woman was pulled over after making an improper turn, then got cited for a seat belt violation when the officer saw that her and her two children - a 14-year-old and a toddler - were not wearing seat belts, and also that the woman had removed her toddler from a car seat to make room for and secure a gas can. The officer took a photo of the back seat (the one you see on the right, minus the graffiti) as part of the police department's "Click It or Ticket" campaign. The Colorado Department of Transportation posted the photo to it's Facebook wall. They encouraged people to "share it to remind everyone that life is precious, so please be responsible and make sure children are properly restrained in the appropriate child safety seat".


Some people were so shocked by the photo, that they didn't think it was real. Many people were outraged expressing numerous comments of concern. For the full story and to read some of the comments, you can click here.

2. The mother of Honey Boo Boo Child


I think everyone has seen or read about these people. I could probably be here all day talking about it so I won't even go there. I feel so sorry for 6-year-old Alana from Toddlers & Tiaras. Her mother, June, on the other hand is just...well...sad is what comes to mind first.

Many people laughed (and many definitely did not) when this episode of Toddlers & Tiaras aired...






...until they found out that the "Go Go Juice" 6-year-old Alana was drinking is a concoction her mother created made up of Red Bull and Mountain Dew. Whaaaa?

According to Good Morning America, one bottle of the energy drink contains as much caffeine as 2 cups of coffee. The mom quickly came under fire and still defends the drink and the reasons for giving it to her daughter. She also has an interesting view when it comes to her daughter's health. While it's nice to hear that she will always love her daughter no matter how much she weighs, she has been quoted saying, 

"She's not skinny but, whether skinny or fat, I am still going to love my children regardless. I could care less if they get up to 1,000 pounds; I am still going to love them."

I think she is turning a blind eye to what she is doing. I'm pretty sure having all that caffeine from the time you are 6 years old to whenever you plan on stopping, on top of being obese, sets a very short lifespan. Hopefully for Alana's sake, she gets smarter than her mother as she gets older. What's worse is that this behavior is being broadcast on national television because of the show. Good Morning America does a video report :




1. The mom who left her baby on top of her car and drove off

This story completely broke my heart when I heard about it. A 19-year-old Phoenix woman left her 6-week-old baby in the car seat on top of her car and drove off. Catalina Clouser was charged with aggravated DUI and child abuse after a motorist found her baby in the street. Police say she drove about 12 miles before realizing her baby was missing! I don't even know what to say about this. If you read this post that I did on child abuse, then you know how I feel about it and this is definitely a case of abuse. Thank the Lord that the baby was not hurt. The child is said to be in good condition and is now in the custody of Arizona Child Protective Services.

Police say the mother was at a nearby park smoking marijuana with her boyfriend. When they left the park to buy some beer, her boyfriend was pulled over for driving erratically and charged with aggravated DUI with a passenger under the age of 15. Clouser told police that it was because of her boyfriend's arrest that she smoked 1 to 2 bowls more at a friend's house. She then left the house with her baby in his car seat. Since the incident, Clouser was arrested and has been released on bond, ordered to wear an electronic bracelet, and is not allowed to drive with anyone under the age of 15. For more information on this story, you can go here and here.

Well, there you have it. Aren't you feeling better about yourself and your parenting already?

~xoxo~


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